The idea of love languages has been round for nearly 30 years, and it has been written about on eight million weblog posts since then. However! We’ve by no means talked about it on Cup of Jo, and I’m curious to listen to about yours. This week, I used to be speaking on the telephone to my pal…
And he or she advised me an interesting story.
The 5 love languages, in the event you want a refresher, describe the methods you give and obtain love. They embody:
phrases of affirmation
high quality time
receiving presents
acts of service
bodily contact
To determine what your love language is, take into consideration what makes you’re feeling most appreciated — or, on the flip aspect, what makes you’re feeling unloved if it’s lacking. You may as well take this on-line quiz.
Love languages are actually useful for any relationship — vital others, siblings, mother and father, kids, associates, colleagues. And the fascinating factor is that two folks in a relationship could have totally different love languages — so, what makes you’re feeling cherished may not be the identical as what makes your accomplice really feel cherished.
On the telephone, my pal advised me how she had as soon as picked up her husband’s dry cleaned shirts, introduced them residence and put hung them on the bed room door. When he noticed them, he turned to her and stated, “You like me.”
One other time, she wrote lengthy record of causes she cherished him, from his good thoughts to his darkish wavy hair. “He was candy however might barely learn it,” she laughs now. “It made him really feel so awkward. On the time, I believed, ‘What’s unsuitable with him?’ However now I do know, his love language isn’t phrases of affirmation — it’s acts of service.”
My love language is unquestionably phrases of affirmation — I need to be advised I’m cherished like a thousand instances a day, I’m so needy! However I don’t care about presents or acts of service in any respect. Alex’s is unquestionably bodily contact and phrases of affirmation.
What’s your love language? Should you’re in a relationship, is it the identical as your accomplice’s?
P.S. My sister’s superior courting tip, and 14 reader feedback on courting.
(Picture of Michelle and Barack Obama.)